Saturday, January 17, 2015

Multiple Marriages Club: Membership is Open

Divorce one leads to another
Recently my friend from America mentioned that she had gone in for a divorce and had thus become a member of the MMC, which stands for multiple marriages club. I was surprised at this terminology, which I had not heard earlier. It obviously means a woman or a man who has been married many times. The MMC is unique and I am told that once you have gone through the first divorce you are heading for membership of the MMC.

My discussion with her revealed certain facts that can be of help to others. So before you go in for a divorce you might like to keep yourself abreast off. It is a sad story that 45-50% of marriages in America end in divorce and most of them are in the first 3 years of marriage. One stark fact that stands out is that in case you divorce once, it’s like breaking the ice and that could be the beginning of a second and maybe third divorce and then you will qualify for the MMC.
The first divorce is like watershed in one’s life. It’s like sailing into uncharted waters. There is fear of the unknown but after that the second and third divorce is relatively easy. This is because know what is the cost involved and what you are expected to do. You will know where to cut corners and how to go about in the entire matter. It’s like moving into a familiar road.
Bear in mind that whatever you do the first divorce may have effects that carry on for a long time. You could pay alimony and even lose your house. It can be quite a disaster and I think it’s a very good thing as this can put the brakes on a divorce, but sadly it is not happening.
Membership of the MMC is of course voluntary and imaginary. There is no such club, but it is there in the mind. I asked my friend whether she felt happy with this terminology. She said ‘NO” emphatically and she was sad that divorce had taken place. That is the bottom line that divorce does not lead to happiness. I think the east is better where getting a divorce is a herculean task. Why not make divorce in America more stringent