Men always fantasize about the women they meet

If you are a married man and happily married at that, how would you feel you had a crush on the girl next door or a lovely sales girl who may visit your home with a product? Do you feel guilt about it? Social scientists opine that in case you do feel attracted to another girl or woman then you need not feel guilty about it. Andrea Sytash a columnist writes that ‘being attracted to other people after you’re taken is normal’. Thus in case a sales girl arrives and your wife is out on a shopping errand and you have to attend to her and start feeling how good she will look naked, then there is no need to feel guilty about it. This is the mental make up of a man as by nature man is polygamous. It’s normal in case you don’t attend to her sales pitch and visualize her breasts and make a fantasy. Don’t be alarmed, as it is a normal human physiological activity.

Sometimes men feel burdened by the guilt complex and feel that coveting another woman who is not your wife is wrong. But a man can be happily married and yet have a crush on another girl. There was the case of my friend an Army captain who was happily married and he had a crush on a girl next door. He lusted for her and when he did he prayed to god to get over his mental thoughts. But I suppose he was wrong and Hindu scriptures do not condone it. Tantra sex in Hinduism is without bonds and trappings and I suppose the captain would have been better of in case he had got over his lascivious thoughts by talking to the lady next door.

Remember if you are in the proper frame of mind all this can be fleeting fun. Man is a social animal and needs to connect to others. One can’t keep hidden desires piled up in the recess of your minds. In fact in you have a crush on a woman and fantasize about her, there is a good chance you will come home happy and translate the crush to your wife for some great sex. Remember it’s normal to fantasize, but to go one step further and start another relationship is another story. That may be a signal that your relationship at home needs some special attention.