Lust and Desire are Handmaidens and not Bad

The Start Ovid

ovid book

In college, I read Ovid theclassical Roman poet and hisconcept of 'gaze'. It is a word that is the start of all feelings. Ovid related this word to women. Gaze is the first step to desire, love and even rape. When a man gazes at a woman it kindles these emotions and actions. Desire in relation to women is the emotion that runs the world. Many people for the sake of argument will not accept it, but desire is the emotion that leads to sex, love and other aspects of a man’s relationship with a woman.

Desire

Ancient greek sculptor desire

One of my priest friends told me that 'desire' is a bad word and against the conceptof god. I wonder what he had in mind by this statement. Without desire there would be no sex and by a long shot it could affect further procreation. Desire is something ingrained in man and I feel it is best to recognize that desire for a woman really is the cornerstone of human emotion.

Women and Desire

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What do women feel about desire? I am afraid many will not admit it, but in case a woman is not desired, she would feel pretty bad about it. A women who nobody desires, is looked down upon. She also feels neglected, yet there are a few women who articulate that desire is not good. Yes, desire leads to other things like obsession, fetish, rape and abduction. All these relate to desire. Desire is omnipresent in a man’s psyche and it is best to accept.

Lust

lust is like a lion

Desire and lust go hand in hand. You can't have lust without desire. Lusting is not a good word, and religion frowns on it. There are umpteen passages in the scriptures that admonish a man against lusting for a woman. But again without lust, how would we have all the great romances that exist today. One can't forget that emperor Jahangir, the great Mogul got the husband of the woman he lusted for killed and made her his queen and named her 'Noor Jahan'.

Last Word

origin of lust and desire

These are just a few stray thoughts on the word 'desire'. I think my priest friend was wrong, for in my view desire is a lovely word and it’s wonderful to desire a woman. Acharya Rajneesh said there is nothing wrong even in lusting for a woman. How many will agree with it

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Desire is a lovely Word. Do Women Love this Word?

I recently read Ovid the classical Roman poet. He talks of 'gaze'. Yes the gaze is the start of everything. A man must first gaze at a woman and then only the other parts of his psyche like desire is activated. Ovid knew the psychology of man and his poems focus on this aspect. A gaze can lead to desire and sex. Maybe rape as well. What if a man did not desire any woman. What would all the women feel?

 I think they would be pretty sad that there is no one to desire them.A woman is happy when she is desired. But desire is a sword that can have two edges. Excessive desire can be an obsession and that will frighten women. Excessive desire can lead to murder, abduction and rape.Women are frail by nature and thus easily succumb to men.

In history we have the example of Jahangir, the Mogul emperor who got the husband of the woman he desired killed and then married her and gave her the title "Noor Jehan". Desire is a complex emotion. It can be accompanied by love . But desire can also be without love. The desire in that case is carnal and only gratification is when a man possesses the woman. These are some facets of life. But I do feel desire is a good thing and it makes our lives worthwhile. If you are normal, desire can be elevating and one can have the chance to try and seduce the woman to bed.

Desire is ingrained in a man and unless you are having a kink , a desire for a woman is a normal event. I know of my English colleague who desired of all persons the maid in his house, a 18 year old girl. Well what did he do ? That's another story. The clue is the movie'After the Rains' with Rahul Bose. See it and you will get the answer.